Advice Of A Mother To Her Daughter – Part 1

            I remember when I was young, my mother used to say lots of things to do because I’m a girl, even though she was not the discriminating type, she used to say that you have to know everything, so that no one should say you’re not capable of doing such and such things. Though teenage is the right time to be an all rounder, its an age to just freak out for the child. They might obey it or not obey it is not what is important, the importance here is, to give the information - the advice. You will not believe it. But when the time arrives, the child would utilize it from her limited experience of her life, the encyclopedia her mother had poured into her brain from time to time. So never ever keep back what you have got to say at the nick of time to your daughter. You cannot be with her always. She deserves it, if she has to become a model daughter, employee, employer, wife, mother & grandmother. For that, you have to give it to her. These advices are the legacy of ours that we pass to the next generation.

            In India, discrimination is an intricate part of its culture. But that doesn’t mean that we have to follow it to the last word. First and foremost give the daughter equal opportunity as you give for the son. Only then she would grow, both spiritually and emotionally.

1.     Never Think A Girl Is Subservient To Any Person Just Because You Are A Girl(gender). If there is a will there is a way. Years back , there were jobs only men were selected because girls didn’t have the muscles to do it. But now, there isn’t any job that girls cannot do it. They have even conquered outer space too. The only thing you should know is, you are capable of anything and everything and for that, you should have the will, the positive attitude, that you can do it. Those who have tried to work hard and make a difference has really made history. So just do it. Go for it.

2.     Always Think Twice Before You Act But The Ultimate Decision Should Come From The Heart. I’d like to say a real life story. Sanju was good in studies and so his parents decided that he could study for doctor. And they explained the plus points and all the advantages, etc..of becoming a doctor. But he didn't like it. Since his parents felt happy about it, he applied and wrote the entrance exam and passed. And his parents surely were very happy and proud too. Sanju was happy too because his parents were happy. He became a doctor with very high marks. But he didn’t practice even for one single day because he didn’t like it. He was not comfortable with it. He was not happy. He wouldn’t even go out of his room. And after 6 months, Sanju enrolled for a pilot course and became a pilot. Now he is happy, to be frank, very happy. He doesn’t take a single minute off from his work. Just imagine If Sanju had  heard his heart, there would not have had so much losses, the years, the money and the energy going to waste.

3.     Never Underestimate The Power Of Help. If you’re capable of helping a person at least once a day. Then be sure when you need a help there would be a thousand hands to do it for you. I remember a man who lived alone in his house. He used to give food for a beggar everyday at 12 noon. It became a ritual. This continued, they had an unspoken bond between them and one day the man didn’t come, the beggar waited and waited. After sometime, he went to the man’s house and tapped on the door, he heard some groans and he again knocked on the door a bit strongly and a feeble cry was heard. The beggar, went around the place and found the back door open. He entered and found the man lying on the kitchen floor. He immediately took the man to the hospital and took care of him until he was discharged from the hospital and from then on the beggar became a personal staff of the man and took care of him.  So you see, the power of help?

4.     Patience Is A Virtue Try To Develop It. Every problem can be solved if you have a little patience. In the story of the goose that laid the golden eggs. If the farmer, instead of killing the goose so that he could take all the eggs that was in the stomach, had a little bit of patience, he could have become rich for a very long time. For a human being to be born it takes 9 months and some more days. For the sun to rise after sunset, it takes more than 10 hours. So for everything to happen, there is a time schedule, wait for it. For that, patience is a must. Just hurrying yourself to make something happen is a waste of energy.

5.     Never Criticise Others. We are all human beings, everybody has  their own share of flaws. You can correct your own self by seeing other’s mistakes. That is why other’s make mistakes, so that we can study it. Roy was a very nice man but he has a flaw. He drinks a lot after sunset. He usually goes to the nearby toddy shop and drinks illegally brewed drink and sleeps in the shop until he is fit to walk. When he wakes the next day, his pocket would be empty. He later told his wife, that the owner of the toddy shop is picking his pocket. But can he do anything for that? Yes he can, quit drinking. He did it and now, he is a better man and financially secure. But if he had criticised the toddy shop owner, just imagine the consequences. So in life we have lots of opportunities to criticise. Its a lesson for us. Learn from it. Live life as it comes.

                                                                                                            To be continued....

See you. Bye.

Meena