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Happily Ever After Series - Don't Reason Your Decisions

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Hi guys!!!! You know, we always make decisions, one way or other. Imagine you are going out, you decide on a dress, shoes, the accessories you are planning to have along with you, the list of decisions goes on. No matter how it looks or how others feel about it, your decisions are yours only. You will surely face the consequences of your decision, no doubt. Nobody is going to share the consequences with you.  So what do you think? Will the consequences be different if you find a reason for your decisions? I don't think so.  My advice is, whatever you decide, " Decide with Love " because the decisions you are making are for you.  Your happiness depends on it. And one other very important favour I want to ask from you guys, Please don't make decisions for others. They are entitled to freely decide. Let them beautifully and lovingly decide, watch their expressions and dilemmas when they decide and be there for them when they need you, that's all, the rest they will m

Happily Ever After Series - The Disease

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Hi Guys!!! My family is going through a cancer phase. When I heard it the first time, I didn't feel anything, no feelings at all because I knew it was the body's message to calm down, take rest and enjoy life. Personally, if it was me, I would have done just that, but unfortunately, it was a family member, who heard the people around. People swarmed from every walks of life and advised 1001 ways to fight cancer. The best hospitals, the best doctors, the best after service, etc..etc... The one thing they forgot to take into consideration is what would happen to the human being who has been afflicted. Anyway, I am writing this post after 6 months of the above issue. The family decided to surgically remove the cancerous part, do the radiation and finish off the situation in one go. Everything was a grand success, except the doctor removed the facial nerve which was passing by the cancerous area and the patient has no sensation on that part of his face. So now, when he smiles or ta

Happily ever After Series - Passion

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 Hi Guys!!! I have always wondered, what makes our life worth living. Have you ever thought about it? A housewife does the same work from dawn to dusk. There is nothing different. They wake up early in the morning, take bath, pray, start preparing food, feed the family. After the kids and husband has gone, she starts, washing, cleaning, ironing, and all the knick-knacks which never come to anyone's notice until when she is no more. By that time, it would be too late to say a trivial "Thank you". So, why does a housewife never complain about doing this monotonous job? Because she loves doing it for her family. The keyword is "Love". That is what passion is all about. Doing the job selflessly, without conditions or reservations and with love it becomes a passion. You can have 1001 passions. So don't stop at one activity. When there is passion, happiness, success, and prosperity follows... That is the power of "Love". So from now on, whatever you do,

Happily Ever After Series - Stop Making Resolutions

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Hey Guys!!! Every year before the arrival of the new year, unconsciously we have a tendency to make resolutions or if we are young, we are asked to make resolutions. And we try to make sure that we follow it, but it's a rarity that we are able to fulfill it till the very end. Have you ever wondered why can't we keep our resolutions? Well!! Let's check why. When we break promises to others, we feel bad about it. But we don't even regret breaking the resolution or the promise we made. Yeah.. yeah... I know... we have 1001 reasons. In reality, there is only one reason - We don't VALUE or LOVE or RESPECT our SELF . You don't believe it? Let me explain. Let's check the dialogue we have with our self before breaking the resolution, I will give mine. "Meena, I think we need to break this resolution next time, we will do it much more strongly. I promise I will keep it till the year end, but for this once, I have no choice.. I need to break it.. I really can&

Happily Ever After Series - When Someone Shouts At You Angrily

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When someone shouts at you angrily, the first question you ask yourself is, "What did I do wrong? " Your answer, "For correcting my mistake? But I didn't do any wrong." Your mind continues, "She hates me." And then you behave accordingly. How? By shouting back? or........ Forgive them? What is reality? Why do some people get angry for no reason or for small reasons? Because your action or your person triggered their bad memory. It's not your fault or their fault, it just came out from their emotional baggage unconsciously. When you know that they did it unconsciously, what will you do? You will forgive them and forget the incident, right? But if you don't forgive what will happen? Welcome aboard, you have created a memory for yourself and you will behave exactly like the person who shouted at you, but doubly strong than what they did to you. Do you want it? I hope not. If you don't clear this incident by forgiving them immediately, then it

The Truth Behind The Sign Of The Cross

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 I from very young age, have used the sign of the cross and still using. I was thinking it was only for christians. But it was quite by accident, I came to know, another big truth underlying the sign of the cross before a prayer. (Don't ask me, what's the first truth. I don't know). I don't know any history or heritage of it. But I know one thing which gives credence to its significance, which we should respectfully use it by every human being in this Universe before they pray. Surprised!!! Don't be. So, let's check, with an example.  I will take my prayer. I make the sign of the cross and I start to pray, "God give me an Idea for my blog." If I believe in God, then I would not worry about it or doubt Him because I really know, that He will give me and I say, "Thank you , Bye." and make the sign of the cross and return. Here, the prayer will be answered immediately. But if I believe God is up in heaven and I have lots of unanswered prayers in

I Was A Selfish Person

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Today, my friend told me, that she was selfish when she was young. She didn't like sharing. She hated when her mother gave others good food, when it was entitled for her and her six siblings. But as she grew up, she transformed. It was the transformed person, who revived her past. So, what do you think, was she selfish and self centred? I will give you an example. After that you can answer the question. Have you seen babies? If they see anything that attractive, they just take it. They don't ask any permission. If we take it back, it cries, until it is returned. Do you think, the baby is selfish and self centred? You would say, it's baby, it doesn't understand. Exactly!! that's the case with everyone of us, even my friend. In some of our past, we have done, very bad and very shameful things.  Don't judge that thought or action or feeling. Just like when rain soaked your new dress, do you feel angry with the rain? Do you think, the rain did a wrong to you? No. Wh

Why Do You Get Angry?

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From personal experience, one thing I know is, after every anger burst, I have regretted it. So let's check, what triggers anger?  Unhealed hurt, triggers anger. What does that mean? Let me tell you a story Anil John is a government official. He makes sure, no work stays pending on his table. One day, he saw an old lady coming up with difficulty. He immediately helped her and asked, "How can I help you?" The old lady gave her papers and he found that it was in another department. He took her to the concerned department. Unfortunately, his colleague had closed shop 10 minutes before lunch. Anil humbly asked his colleague to help the old lady. But his colleague just laughed off and made a joke of it. The old lady, turned to Anil and spoke, "Son. don't worry, I will wait downstairs, until this officer returns." Anil couldn't control his anger, he caught hold of his colleague's collar and squeezed him. Colleague, immediately extricated himself and reques

Why Are Your Prayers Never Answered?

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  Once a girl was walking through a dark empty street in the middle of the night. She felt very creepy. She prayed with all her feeling of fear, "God, please don't bring any bad people now. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you." After a moment, a whole bunch of cut throats, hooligans, everyone stood in front of her. Why did God do that? Is He so insensitive, that He can't hear a prayer in need? That's what we all think. But let me put to you simply. He actually heard her prayer and He answered it immediately in abundance. You might be thinking, I am joking. But no, I am completely serious. Let's check which prayer God heard. It's the sub conscious mind that answers your prayers. This sub conscious mind is like a baby. How do we speak to a baby? In one word or two, not more than that. So if you say, "Baby, don't  eat the food." Will it obey? No, it will immediately eat the food, because it knows the one word from your sentence, "Eat" and

How To Live Mindfully?

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We are all searching for love, happiness, peace, prosperity, abundance, beauty and the list goes on. And what happens, when you don't get it? You become unhappy. What happens, when you achieve it? You are still unhappy.  Because that was not what you expected and you want more. So you set a new and higher goal. That is the life you are living now. Now let's check the real fact. You are enveloped every moment of your life in love, happiness, peace, prosperity, abundance, beauty, etc. You might be thinking, I am joking. Unfortunately, I am not. How can that be? Let's check one thing you receive everyday. The air you breathe.  The Universe has given you abundant air to breathe. You don't need to buy it from any store. The lungs, does a great job in bringing the air from the atmosphere through the nose, through the windpipe inside your body and it is transferred to the blood. This air when it reaches every cell of your body, you are alive. Because you have life you see the

Why Are Men Always The Head of The Family?

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You might think, its because the men are the rulers or the leaders of the family. Not really. He is named the head of the family because, his decisions are always made with his intelligence and well planned strategies. Which all happens in his head.  Now, if a man can incorporate his heart with his brain,  then, he officially can become the head of the family.  How so? The sixth sense, intuition, comes from the heart and it is quite powerful. When you follow your heart, you can feel the outcome of the decision, before it has happened. And it will surely happen, because you feel it. And remember, any person, whether a man or a woman, if they can balance their decisions with both, the head and their heart. Then they can easily be the rulers of this Universe.   So, my advise to all married men. When you marry, don't stand tall saying you are the head of the family and think your wife is a nobody. No, you cannot be whole or complete, until you both are in this together, sharing, caring

What Happens When You Are Angry?

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  Well, let's start from the beginning. Do you know how many cells are there in your body? 50 trillion cells.  What is the speciality of these cells? Each cell is one person. So you have 50 trillion people inside you, which is approximately 6000 times of world population. It recreates all your thoughts and feelings. You might think, it's crazy, but that's how your body is made. So what happens when you are angry? When you are angry, you fight. Likewise, all the 50 trillion cells in your body too become angry and they start fighting among each other.  When you continue in your anger, your cells will continue fighting, ending in  deathly sicknesses like cancer, Auto Immune Deficiency disease, etc.. for you and blocking you from all the goodness in happening and filling you with darkness. How do you stop it? Be peaceful and full of love, then every cell of your body recreates your thought and feeling, thus healing, rejuvenating and regenerating your body, making you  younger,

Why Does Love Vanish After Marriage

 Imagine you got a beautiful diamond studded gold figurine, with one hand missing. And you know it's somewhere in the house. You would search for that missing hand, to make it whole and beautiful. When you get it, you are happy and at peace, then will you look for that hand again? No, because you have already received it.  Likewise, you are a whole being, but as you live your life, you lose some of the energies, like being not loved, poor, darkness, fairness, beauty, ugliness, name, fame, riches, etc.. thus creating a void inside you. Then automatically, you get attracted to the people who have it and when you are with them, you are happy. You would feel a soul connection. By being with that person regularly, the energy from that person, fills your void. Now you are no longer attracted to that person or you would not feel that soul connection. In every person, there are different varieties of void. So, when another person that can fulfill another of your void comes your way, you ge

How To Control Your Mind?

  There is only one way to do that. Meditation. That does not mean, sit in one place, close your eyes and breathe. Well, if you can do that, then that's perfectly cool. But if you can meditate, every waking hour, then, that is the best way. How do we do that? So, let's find, "who usually says, Meditation is boring?" Yes, your mind. What exactly is meditation? Meditation is to find your inner silence and peace. What exactly happens, when you decide to meditate or pray or be quiet? Your mind will shout "Its BORING!!!" You know you will have to sit there without TV, without your phone and you will have to sit still. You know it's impossible. You have so much to study, to work, to go there, etc... And you will hear it and say, "Yes, its boring and you have no time." You are now a slave of your mind. It is controlling you and you are not even aware of it. All the problems you are having in life is because  you are following what your mind is saying.

Setting Goals

Hey Guys!!! Do you know what I need in life, total freedom to follow my passion. That means we should have a true passion to make our life meaningful and a total freedom to do it. So when you set goals, try to connect it with your passion and the chances are you can reach it within no time. My thoughts :- If ever you set a goal, make sure that its not achievable or out of your reach. That is when your mind and heart strengthens itself to take that leap of faith. Which faith? The faith in your self, that you can achieve it no matter what and that will be the ride of your life. Believe it or not, the moment when you reach that summit or the destination or the goal, you will learn how priceless it is and don't stop there, set the next non achievable goal, because all goals are achievable within no time,  but the key word is " Passion ". Do you want to hear my story? I had a very big passion, to become a doctor and save as many people as possible and mostly

Don't Let Society Dictate Your Life

Hey Guys!!!! Today, as I was walking back home in the morning, two nuns were rushing to work, one a senior and another a junior. They were wearing their official nun's dress and the senior had a hand bag and a carry bag and the junior a backpack using as it should be. She was not shy to carry it on her back. Nobody felt it odd that a nun is having a backpack on her back, but the senior was not comfortable with that. She forced the junior to take off the backpack (It was quite heavy) and offered to carry it for her in her hand and gave her the carry bag.  It was an eye opener to me, though the junior was comfortable with the way she took care of herself with that bag, the senior was making sure that the junior conducts herself as the society dictates. Its not weird, we all do that in our daily life, the question everyone asks before they do anything is, "what would people think?" And we direct our life according to the society's norms and also accordi

Aim in Life

Hey Guys!!!! I know, its weird to speak of aim in life. If I say, everyone has only one aim in life, then how much more weird it will be? Yesterday I met two Australian ladies who came to India to follow a Yogini (a female sage) named amma. The younger of the two is a staunch believer of amma. She has been following her for the past 8 years. So I asked her "What good of amma do you use in your daily life?" She replied, " I don't know, I guess, amma helps a lot of people and that I do too." And she asked, am I following amma. I replied in the negative. Its not that I am against anyone or anything. Its because I should know, why I would like to follow a person. So while talking, I was asking myself, why am I here in this world in the first place? While evaluating life - sitting in the chair and wasting tons of words (part of profession) to impress others. Is it worth it? What is my aim in my life? This put me in a search mode, well, its n